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The Art of Sticking With Something

Updated: Feb 6

If there's one thing about me, it's I'm a master of giving up.


I guess "giving up" is a more negative term. What I mean is starting something with gusto and letting it slowly taper off until I forget about it and it becomes yet another unfinished project to add to the pile.


If you're a creative, and even if you're not, maybe you know exactly what I'm talking about. It begins with a spark of an idea you get reeeeally excited for. You start right away. You start with passion. With purpose. And then the excitement fades. Maybe you get bored. Distracted. Or discouraged. "Hey, what's that over there...?"


The Start


It started when I was little. You name it, I tried it. Tap dance, jazz dance, gymnastics, swimming, soccer, piano, girl scouts, color guard, playing the flute, playing the oboe. And I get that when you're young there are a ton of things you try and realize that you don't like them. But it wasn't that I didn't necessarily like them. It was that I always felt like I could never be good at them.


Fast-forward to adulthood, I've given up a lot less. But there are still things I pick up once, then they go to the closet never to be seen. Cross-stitch, the ukulele, oh...and I briefly started a cupcake venture with business cards and everything.


But the one thing I've always really wanted to stick with was an exercise routine.


I ran cross country in high school and it continued on to college. I'd go on a random run, and it became my therapy. I felt free and alive and the stress washed away. But even though I loved it, I would never make a consistent routine of it.


Same with dieting. I love my veggies but never made an effort to consistently eat healthily. Life got in the way. I was really busy, okay?


Or was it that I just didn't make the time?


The Change


So come January of 2019, I decided it was time. Time to stop giving up. Time to dig my heels in the ground and actually stick with something. There was also a wedding dress I wanted to fit into (small source of motivation).


So I started working out in the mornings. I committed to an 80-day program of home workouts, and I got up every morning before work and stuck with making a change. I can tell you how it went, but the true proof is in the video below.

Once I finished that program, I felt unbelievably accomplished. I had never thought that I could work out 80 days in a row. I never thought that I could make that kind of commitment and stick with it, but then I did.


Not only did I complete an 80-day program, but I continued on from there. Throughout the entire year, I learned how to show up for myself. I learned that I could indeed stick with something. I learned than I had it in me to not give up. I learned to understand that not all goals are achieved quickly. That just because you think you aren't good enough to continue with something, doesn't mean you should stop trying.


I found my worth. I stopped taking anxiety medication. I started becoming happier. The light in my eyes came back. I began to believe in myself.


And I fit into my wedding dress. The goal that started it all.



The Takeaways


Whether it's fitness, or an art project, eating healthy, sticking with a hobby, or just getting out of bed in the morning, here's what I learned in overcoming the habit of giving up.


1. Know when to let go

So I know this blog post is about not giving up. But hear me out. Sometimes it might make sense to let go. And I say "let go" and not "quit" because when something isn't right, when something isn't making you happy, and you're forcing it so much that it's making you unhappy, maybe it's actually holding you back from something that could be a gamechanger.


Bad boyfriend? Let him go. Unhappy with a painting? Change it. That dream job turns out to be a nightmare job? Update that resume.


Sometimes giving up means giving in to something else that could change your world. Don't hold on to things that aren't meant to be.


2. Pick your time commitment, and stick to it.

Whether your goal is writing more, or working out more, or finishing that book you keep meaning to — set a goal of commitment and stick with it.


If you want to write, maybe you commit to 5 minutes a day. And then once you get the handle on 5 minutes a day, you increase it to 10 minutes a day. And then over time, it becomes part of your life.


Maybe you say you don't have time. Assess where you spend your time. Do you watch TV for 5 minutes a day? Maybe change that to 5 minutes of writing.


There's an Elizabeth Gilbert quote I heard her say at the INBOUND conference, and I'll leave it with you here.


What are you willing to give up, in order to become who you really need to be? - Elizabeth Gilbert

3. Find your accountability circle

Surround yourself with people who understand your goals, and are willing to help you get there.


That doesn't always mean people who scream, "YOU CAN DO IT!". It's people who understand when you can't go to a party because you have a commitment. People who will show up and work out with you. Who will text you and ask you how that project is going. Who will make a healthy dinner with you instead of heading out to the bar.


Your support system is huge. If you're surrounded by people who aren't supporting your goals, find people who are. Because we can't always do it on our own.


4. Celebrate victories along the way

Goals take time. Sometimes they take so much time, we want to throw our hands in the air and say "NOPE!" and go eat ice cream.


Celebrate the small victories along the way. Pat yourself on the back. Do a little dance. Keep encouraging yourself with positive reinforcement instead of dwelling in the reality that you haven't met that goal yet.


5. Forgive yourself

If you do give up, and you are wallowing in the fact that you gave up, that really gets you nowhere.

Forgive yourself, and pick it back up again. If you can, try to define the habit that caused you to fall off the tracks and do it differently the next time. But the biggest thing of all is to realize that you are only human. Give yourself grace. And keep going.

Michigan

©2019 by Ness Glennie